When your child begins exhibiting bad behavior, you may be at a loss, especially if your child hasn't previously acted out. Children can behave in undesirable ways for any number of reasons. Being well-informed about child psychology and your options can help you make the best decisions for your family moving forward. Here are four steps you can take when your child starts to act out.

1. Figure out if it's age-appropriate.

Tantrums and back talking aren't very pleasant to experience, but they're normal behavior at certain ages. Very young children haven't yet learned to manage their emotions or express themselves, which means tantrums are likely. While you should still try to redirect your child's attention and manage their behavior, it's helpful to realize that they can't control themselves as well as older children can. Meanwhile, older teenagers may become rebellious as they test out their personal autonomy for the first time. Try to be gracious and understanding when it comes to your child's behavior.

2. Lay out rules and boundaries clearly.

Children thrive when they have clear boundaries and rules to follow. Children who don't have this may begin acting out as a way to feel secure; being punished helps them find the limits of your patience, which enforces a sense of boundaries. You can prevent this type of acting out by creating rules and explaining them to your children. Make sure your children know what consequences will result from breaking a rule since enforcement of boundaries is important.

3. Be consistent.

Consistency is very important when it comes to teaching children how to behave. If your child breaks a rule, you should enact the consequences calmly and immediately. Letting things slide creates inconsistency, which may cause your child to believe you aren't really serious about the rules. If you co-parent with your spouse, make sure they're on the same page. Don't allow your children to pit you and your spouse against one another since this can lead to rebellion. If your child knows that one parent will let them get away with more, they will see the other parent as the "bad guy."

4. Take your child to a child therapist.

If your child is still having behavioral difficulties after you try these steps, there may be an underlying issue causing it. A child therapist can talk to your child in a safe environment where they can feel free to express themselves. Your child's therapist can uncover any potential disorders or emotional disturbances your child is facing. If your child is diagnosed with ADHD or another disorder, your child's therapist can help you come up with a plan to help them. Look for a child therapist like one at Pope Behavioral Health and Wellness to learn more.